Manifesting Love
Once you decide that you are ready to be in a relationship the Universe, indeed, begins to turn to make that happen. We are all co-creators of our world, and if you look at the people you have attracted and the relationships you have experienced so far, that will confirm for you what you’ve been vibrating out into the world.
The good news is that you don’t like what you’ve been getting, you can change that. The first thing is to accept responsibility.
Now, I’m not saying that if you attracted violence or cruelty that it was your fault. Every individual you have a relationship with had the choice to be kind, to do good.
It is important to understand that relationships are often a mirror; a mirror that shows you the deepest part of yourself. If you are feeling unattractive, you will attract someone who will prove that to you. If you are feeling afraid, someone will mirror your fear to you. It is very important how you feel about yourself. You must access the feelings of self-love and self-respect so that you attract someone who mirrors that goodness back to you.
It is also very important what you want from a relationship. What that looks like is very unique and individual. I highly recommend looking at previous relationships and identifying what you liked about them.
Or even better – what you didn’t like; about them as individuals and also about them within the context of your relationship. You might really enjoy someone who is funny on a date, but then realize they are never serious enough when real life happens.
Ask yourself -- do you want someone who is very talkative? Or prefer someone who is more quiet and introspective? Do you want to be touched, hugged and snuggled? Or do you prefer some physical space? Do you want to be one of those “joined at the hip” couples? Or would you just like someone to hang with on the weekends to Netflix and chill? Are you looking for a long-term relationship? And what is long-term, anyway?
Each relationship that has come before has helped you to develop your understanding of what you want, and what you don’t want. And be okay with that! Humans can be deeply contradictory; remember being honest with yourself is the key. Only then can you be honest with this other person and together be honest about what is happening in the relationship.
When you have decided you want to “call in” love in your life, remember to be patient. Not now doesn’t mean not ever. Here are some great manifestation tips:
1. Start telling your friends that you are interested in meeting someone. Not in the way that you are asking people to set you up, but just by voicing this out loud you begin to put more energy behind it.
2. Make a list of attributes that you want in a relationship. It can be very general. Example: “I want to meet someone who will be fun to date, who is authentic and interesting and who I can have a good time with.”
Or, it can be more detailed: “I want to meet a man who is kind, compassionate, funny and smart. I want someone who is a good conversationalist, educated, employed and good looking. I want to feel attracted to him; I want to feel safe and heard by him. I want him to be supportive of me and my work and help me to grow to my greatest potential. I want someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with me and who will be honest and caring. I want someone who enjoys traveling, cooking and playing Scrabble. And I want him to be good in bed and sexually attracted to me.”
Remember -- none of those things are too much to ask! Write them down, and speak them aloud – particularly during a New Moon!
3. Honor the relationship sector of your home. You can locate this area of your by using the Feng Shui Bagua; the Bagua is a tic-tac-toe shaped layout that indicates the various areas of the home and how they relate to certain energies. You can by decorating it with warm colors that inspire the feeling of love in you. Place in this space photographs of your happily paired relatives or friends. You can add symbols of love like hearts or doves; or use pairs of objects, like two candlesticks, or a pair of vases. This can be a quick simple fix until you decide you want to really put some energy behind this idea and then ….
4. Create a Relationship Altar. This is also best consecrated during a New Moon.
Ritually telling the Universe what you want in a relationship is a great way to honor your desire and put energy behind it. If your home is not a straight-forward shape where you can easily build the altar in the relationship sector, or if you share space with someone and the relationship area is not accessible, you can create a larger altar and use the back right corner of the altar (the relationship sector) for your Relationship Altar.
Place objects on the Altar that represent what you are looking for. A pair of red or pink candles; a small healthy plant or a vase of vibrant flowers; a photograph of a happy couple that you know, or even a photo of two hands clasping each other.
Place something on the Altar that represents you – for example I used a small sculpture of the Goddess Lakshmi, Goddess of Wealth, to represent me. For my symbol for the man I wanted to call in I had a Shiva trident and a rudraksha bead which also represents Shiva. I added a piece of quartz crystal and a piece of rose quartz. And finally I included a solid stone heart to represent the solidity of the relationship.
Stand in front of the altar and speak aloud what you want in a relationship. Perhaps light the candles and say a prayer or meditate. Keep the area clean, keep the flowers fresh and the plant watered. And see what happens!
